The dating scene can be extremely complicated to navigate in today’s world. No one wants to invest a lot of time and energy in an individual or relationship that we later find out is not a good match for us. It can be extremely painful to realize you have become emotionally invested in an unhealthy relationship. So today, I want to share three warning signs that you are dating the wrong person.
1. The person you’re dating is hindering your spiritual growth. Is it true that the person you are dating has little or no interest in the things of God? Do they make little or no effort to attend church with you? Is prayer a priority in their life? Are they constantly pressuring you into unwanted physical contact? The Bible states in 2 Corinthians 6:14, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" In other words, refuse to invest precious time and energy in any relationship that is impeding your spiritual progress.
2. The person you’re dating has a wandering eye. Are you currently in a relationship with a person you feel like you cannot trust? Have your suspicions compelled you to go through their phone or other personal items to verify their faithfulness? Does the person you’re currently dating refuse to define or put labels on your relationship? Colossians 3:9 sums it up best, "Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices." I don’t believe God wants you to continue in a dating relationship with a person, when you cannot trust the things they say.
3. The person you’re dating is verbally abusive. The Bible says in Proverbs 18:21, "The tongue has the power of life and death…" Whether you realize it or not, the words your significant other speak to or about you have creative power. A negative companion can speak death to your goals, dreams, and self-image. They can do much to tear down the self-confidence God is trying to establish in your life. Don’t give your heart to a person who tears you down and/or barrages you with harmful speech in moments of anger. Rather, you want your significant other to be someone who builds you up and pushes you to be the best version of you that you can be. Never date a verbally abusive person.
Yes, the dating scene can be extremely complicated to navigate in today’s world. Society is full of people who can hinder your spiritual growth, fail to be trustworthy, and engage in verbally abusive behavior. Once you see these red flags, run in the opposite direction! You don’t want to become emotionally attached to the wrong person. Always remember, it’s much easier to get into a bad relationship, than to get out of one. Blessings!!!
Pastor Cornell Maltbia is senior pastor at True Holiness Saints Center in Conway. He serves on various nonprofit boards throughout his tenure of community service. For more information or to contact Maltbia, log onto trueholiness.net.