We all have multiple opportunities every day to become angry. Anger itself, as an emotion, is not sinful. Jesus, Himself, displayed anger on occasion but never allowed His anger to become sinful. Today, I want to share three inappropriate ways to express your anger.
When we blow up! Some people don’t know how to contain their anger. When they get mad, they simply let it rip. They are unrestrained in their comments and mean spirited in their approach. When a person with out of control anger blows up, they are typically rude and overly aggressive. But the Bible warns us against this inappropriate behavior. In fact, Proverbs 29:11 states, “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” It is foolish to say and do things out of anger that you later regret. Learn to manage your anger by not blowing up.
When we suppress it! It is never a good idea to keep your anger bottled up on the inside, because it will eventually manifest itself in other ways. For instance, bottled up anger causes a variety of health problems. It can be a contributing factor to headaches, digestion problems, insomnia, and high blood pressure, just to name a few. Bottled up anger, if not properly addressed, can also lead to emotional issues like resentment and bitterness. Or, sometimes you may just feel numb toward the person or situation. The Bible says it best in Ecclesiastes 3:1, 3, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: …a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,” Negative feelings don’t go away just because you choose to ignore them. You need to express your anger at the right time and in the right manner.
When we pout! Some people take a passive aggressive approach to their anger. They avoid direct confrontation with the person that made them angry at all cost. But they are good at indirectly getting their hidden hostility across through sulking. For instance, a passive aggressive person will not tell you when something is bothering them, but they will show you through their actions. They will give you “short” answers, shut down emotionally, and withdraw from any meaningful interaction with the person they’re upset with. By contrast, Jesus tells us in Matthew 18:15, “If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault….” In other words, your indirect approach is making things worse not better.
Managing our anger appropriately can be a difficult thing to do. It is so easy to fall into the trap of blowing up, suppressing our feelings, or pouting. Yet the Bible warns us in Ephesians 4:26, “In your anger do not sin:…” The Bible doesn’t tell us not to get angry, but rather to manage our anger in ways that make relationships better not worse. Blessings!!!